Discover Four Words to Save a Relationship

Couples therapists depict love and fear cycles in new self-help book

SelectBooks Inc. is proud to announce the upcoming release of "Love Cycles, Fear Cycles: Reduce Conflict and Increase Connection in Your Relationship" (March 2018; $16.95; ISBN: 978-1-59079-440-1) by David Woodsfellow, Ph.D., and Deborah Woodsfellow, MPH. Readers are taught to break free of their fear cycle to re-frame feelings and recreate a love cycle for relationship success.

Other books have touched on the topic of relationship cycles, but none have placed it at the forefront. "Love Cycles, Fear Cycles" helps couples to develop four unique words to help them to better communicate in their marriages or romantic relationships. The love cycle and its four words are unique and summarize a pattern of caring actions and warm feelings. On the other hand, the fear cycle, also described by four unique words, occurs when both people react negatively to one another’s actions. Not only are readers encouraged to understand and change their own part of the relationship, but they are also asked to consider how their past experiences might be affecting their current fear cycle, and which of these negative feelings and responses are being replayed from previous relationships.

'Love Cycles, Fear Cycles' is the core polarity that embraces all couples and determines the quality and durability of their relationship. The authors skillfully use their relationship as the backdrop and illustration of negotiating that journey, producing an amazingly accessible book for all couples.

Harville Hendrix, Ph.D., and Helen LaKelly Hunt, Ph.D., Authors of 'Getting the Love You Want' and 'Making Marriage Simple'

Once these patterns are identified, Woodsfellow helps couples take further steps to better their relationships through personal examples and supplementary exercises at the end of the book. The Exercise Handbook features 24 exercises that include short questionnaires to help us understand things like fight or flight responses, hurt feelings, and loneliness. These clear lessons and exercises throughout the book provide deeper reflection while further teaching us how to increase the good times and reduce the bad times.

The release of the Woodsfellows’ first book stems from the success with their practice, The Woodsfellow Institute for Couples Therapy in Atlanta, Georgia. The practice offers weekly counseling as well as two-day intensive therapy sessions. It also conducts nationally recognized workshops that offer exclusive training for other couples therapists looking to continue their education. David Woodsfellow has done 25,000 hours of couples therapy and has helped more than 1,500 couples save their marriages. Deborah blends her medical experience with her marital therapy training, 25 years of which include professional experience in relationship coaching.

Harville Hendrix, Ph.D., and Helen LaKelly Hunt, Ph.D., authors of Getting the Love You Want and Making Marriage Simple, say, “Love Cycles, Fear Cycles" is the core polarity that embraces all couples and determines the quality and durability of their relationship. The authors skillfully use their relationship as the backdrop and illustration of negotiating that journey, producing an amazingly accessible book for all couples.”

"Love Cycles, Fear Cycles" delivers a unique approach to love languages rivaling The Five Love Languages in that it provides an important tool to help couples learn how to genuinely understand, communicate and reconcile their feelings to one another.

David Woodsfellow is one of the most experienced marriage therapists in the United States. His practice has been 100 percent exclusively couples therapy for 24 years. He has done 25,000 hours of couples therapy and helped more than 1,500 couples save their marriages. Over 3,200 of his colleagues have attended his professional workshops, over 600 have referred patients, and over 200 have pursued advanced training with him. Dr. Woodsfellow graduated from Harvard College magna cum laude. He received his Master of Education in Guidance and Counseling from Antioch New England. He received his Master of Arts in Counseling Psychology from the University of California Santa Barbara. He was awarded his Doctor of Philosophy in Clinical Psychology from Georgia State University. His clinical psychology internship was at the Neuropsychiatric Institute of the University of California Los Angeles Medical School. Dr. Woodsfellow is a Fellow of the Georgia Psychological Association and a member of the American Psychological Association. Together with his wife Deborah, Dr. Woodsfellow founded The Woodsfellow Institute for Couples Therapy, which is dedicated to helping couples save their marriages and helping therapists help couples. Married 20 years, Dr. Woodsfellow has one son and two grandchildren. He lives and practices with Deborah in Atlanta, Georgia.

Deborah Woodsfellow is a relationship coach with 25 years of professional experience helping people who are struggling with challenging moments in their lives. She is a credentialed member of the International Coaching Federation. Deborah served as a wartime Navy Corpsman in San Diego, California, and a Physician Assistant in Atlanta, Georgia. She was awarded her Master’s in Public Health from Emory School of Public Health. Deborah blends her medical experience with her marital therapy training. Together with her husband, Deborah has co-presented couples workshops for ten years and professional continuing education workshops for 15 years. She lives and practices in Atlanta, Georgia, with David and her therapy dog Gracie.

Source: SelectBooks Inc.